What are energy leaks

Energy Leaks are the small ways in which we give our energy away. Agreeing too much. Saying ‘yes’ all the time in a one sided conversation to friends that just focus on themselves and not to your issues. Making too much effort to be popular. Listening much more than talking. A good conversation is when both people talk and listen in equal amounts.

Stopping your energy Leaks

The main and deepest parts of our personality are learned, created and set when we are very young, pre four years old. These become the foundations and building blocks for all the other aspects of ourselves as we grow. If in childhood there was trauma or difficult situations these deeper building blocks and foundations of who we are may not be well made. Problems in later life often stem from early childhood experiences and coping strategies we put in place in hard times. These strategies and behaviours may not be working now or better ones need to be put in their place. The longer a behaviour or strategy has been with us the harder it is to change.

Some of our deeper personality traits can be born of low self esteem. We were treated badly. If the bad treatment took place pre four years old from a parent we blame ourselves and at a deep level feel we deserve that. This can carry on into later life and lead to accepting bad treatment as normal. At our instinctive level dangers to ourselves will never be accepted. These situations can cause anxious moments and lead to depression.

Long term habits allowing energy leaks.

We can lose or give our energy away without realising. Habits grown out of low self esteem can allow us to let people treat us in a way that leaves us feeling drained. This is not the fault of the other person, its our fault for accepting it. Sufferers must take responsibility for their own situation. Conditions for issues are often initiated by significant characters from childhood. If sufferers choose to continue accepting or even encouraging one sided draining typed interactions they must take responsibility for this.

At the end of the day the person suffering is the only one that can be responsible for improving the situation.

Times when a state of loneliness and desperation were bad with less than ideal conditions of social interaction become acceptable. Habits set in childhood become deep rooted by adulthood to the point where they are considered normal.

Removing the leaks

First realise they exist. If you are feeling bad and don’t know why then something needs looking at. Look at yourself and see how your treatment differs from others.