Quick guide to depression
• Our parents don’t give us the love we need.
• Worse parenting equals more damaging effects.
• Blame ourselves as the reason our parents did not care for us.
• Self esteem is low
• Low self esteem can lead to not asserting ourselves when we need to
• We carry a constant pain after a while we do not realise we are carrying
• Bottle issues up then over or under react to problems
• Seek instant pain relief using, drugs, lying to self, twisting the truth.
• A downward cycle starts as the pain returns after each short term pain relief
• Anxiety and depression set in.
Parents to children relations and damage
The majority of long term mental health issues stem from child parent relationships.
Unfortunately these often come from the relationships those parent had with their parents, and so the cycle goes on.
Parents learn parenting form their own parents. If those parenting skills lack in certain areas then that gets passed on.
Every parent loves their children and wants to be the best parent they can be, most often they give better parenting than they receive.
Child parent relationships improve from generation to generation but its a slow process.
Road to recovery
1 – Realise you are suffering
2 – Understand what is happening and why
3 – Take disciplined steps to change habits both mental and physical
Stop with the distractions
Take some time to stop and think
Make some plans on how to deal with current things and future things
Its too easy to keep the distractions going so we don’t have to deal with the hard things. The sooner you deal with them the better you will fee.